Have you ever walked into a meeting, looked around the room, and thought, “What am I even doing here?”
Maybe you’ve chalked up your achievements to luck, timing, or simply being in the right place at the right time. If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. That heavy feeling of self-doubt you can’t seem to shake? It has a name—imposter syndrome. And it’s more common than most of us care to admit.
I remember early in my career when I got a promotion I’d worked hard for. Instead of celebrating, I felt overwhelmed, convinced someone had made a mistake. I’d spend hours replaying every decision I made, waiting for people to “figure me out.” But here’s the thing I wish I’d realized sooner: confidence isn’t about never doubting yourself. It’s about showing up, even when the doubt follows you.
Understanding the Root of Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome whispers false truths into your ear, convincing you that your successes don’t belong to you. For professionals, the stakes can feel higher because careers often ride on outward perceptions of competence. The irony? Many of the most accomplished people experience it. Even CEOs and executives admit to feeling like frauds at times. It’s a quiet battle—and one you can overcome.
The causes often trace back to unhelpful beliefs. Maybe you’ve internalized the idea that you need to “be perfect” or “know everything.” If so, it’s time to reframe those expectations. Confidence doesn’t require perfection. It grows when you accept your imperfections and keep moving forward.
How to Build Resilient Confidence
The good news is that you can turn the volume down on imposter syndrome and strengthen your confidence over time. It took me a while to see that confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something you nurture. Here are some practical ways to get started:
- Keep a Record of Your Wins
We’re quick to focus on our mistakes and forget to celebrate what we’ve done right. Start keeping a “win journal.” Each week, jot down moments you’re proud of, big or small. Over time, you’ll create a go-to reminder of just how capable you are. - Reframe the Narrative
Instead of “I’m not qualified for this role,” try “I’m learning and growing into this role.” Your language shapes your reality. Start by challenging those inner thoughts and replacing them with empowering ones. - Seek Out Feedback
Sometimes we’re blind to how others see us. Asking colleagues or mentors for honest feedback can give you a fresh perspective. You might be surprised by how much confidence others already have in you. Use their insights to build trust in your abilities. - Accept that Growth Means Discomfort
Confidence isn’t about eliminating discomfort; it’s about getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Every time you step outside your comfort zone, you prove to yourself that you can handle more than you thought. Take one small, uncomfortable step today, and you’ll start rewriting your inner narrative. - Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Seek out mentors, friends, or communities that uplift and encourage you. Having people who believe in you—even when you don’t believe in yourself—is invaluable. Their belief can carry you forward when yours wavers.
Motivating Yourself to Take Action
Here’s the truth about imposter syndrome and confidence: they’re not static. They ebb and flow. There will be days when doubt creeps back in. It’s what you do in those moments that matters most. For me, the turning point came when I stopped seeking perfection and focused on progress. The more I allowed myself to show up as I was, the quieter those nagging voices became.
Ask yourself this the next time doubt strikes: “What if I’m not an imposter? What if I really do deserve this?” Because chances are, you do. And when you start leaning into that belief—even just a little bit each day—you’ll find that confidence isn’t elusive after all. It’s been waiting for you to notice it.
A Final Thought on Courage and Growth
Imposter syndrome thrives in silence and secrecy, and the moment you start addressing it head-on, it begins to lose its grip. Confidence, on the other hand, grows with every small, brave step you take despite your doubts. The path isn’t always easy, yet it’s worth it.
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Remember, self-doubt doesn’t define you. Your courage to act in the face of it does. You belong in the room, at the table, and in every achievement you’ve earned. If you could use some help showing up and believing in yourself, click here and find a time for us to talk.